As Invidia has mentioned, we’re renegotiating our contract. A process that is less clear cut than one might think. The latest change was not the result of either of us being unhappy with the current arrangement but a startling realization on her part: she’s not the sub she thought she was.

There are certain levels of maturity associated with submissives. She thought she was at the ‘adult submission’ level where a person gives up control, but is also expected to be amenable to behavior modification. In other words, if I lay down the law about snacks in bed, I don’t expect to have to check up on her every night to make sure there aren’t crumbs on the sheets.

It turns out that Invidia is a ‘rebellious teenage’ sub, much to her surprise. This is where the Dominant assumes control, period. It’s much more on the ‘Daddy’ end of the scale. Under this paradigm, I do have to check up on every rule (especially new ones) and hand out pats or punishments as needed. You expect the occasional tantrum and subbies are sent to their rooms and swatted for their actions after cooling off. Changes in behavior can occur but they are almost always imposed from above.
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The ‘adult’ sub will eventually understand most orders are for her betterment whereas a ‘teenage’ sub will instinctively react with resentment or even outright hostility. The latter is, of course, a harder package to deal with. Check ups are going to be much more common around here (probably whippings as well). If behavioral changes are all top down, they have to come with much more intense punishments. The adult sub is almost as chastised in knowing she has failed her Dom. The teen needs something more primal and less intellectual.

We’ll keep you, our gentle readers, informed of our progress with this new knowledge. I expect it will be very interesting!

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